If she comes to believe he’s lower value than her, then there’ll come a day where she gets that stony, dead look in her eye and says she wants space, a break, to find herself or some other such bullshit. – Were YOU putting in more effort in the relationship than she was? That’s via you putting in a lot more time, money, gifts, or energy?Ī woman NEEDS a man who she believes has a higher Dating Market Value (DMV) than she does. Towards the end of your relationship (or throughout): She got angry at you after you did barely anything wrong – a typical sign of lost attraction. Answer these questions and if you provide “yes” answers to any of them, then clear as day, it’s lost attraction. That’s why the first thing I gotta do here is tell you what the signs of lost attraction are, so that you can clearly recognize it, if it is indeed the problem. Now, you may or may not immediately know or recognize that lost attraction (from her end) is the root cause of your breakup. Women end a lot more relationships than men do, and lost attraction is usually the reason why. Let’s do this: Situation 1 – Your ex lost her attraction to you and she broke it off It’s important to spend time considering whether you SHOULD want her back Then when you find it, we will discuss it fully. This is the part where I write headlines of the different reasons that breakups happen, and you look over them until you find the one that is relevant to your situation. Now that you’re calmer and more able to think about this whole ex situation logically, let’s consider whether you even should want her back. Rushed action WILL cause a setback I can promise you, I’ve seen it time and again. Because if you wait like I’m asking you to, you’ll then be in a better position to get her back (if that’s what you ultimately decide you want). If that means you need a few days before you proceed, so be it. When you want your ex back, get your head right (that’s your task right now) and THEN proceed on through the rest of this article. We’ll talk about what NOT to do after a breakup later in this article.įor now, just wait til you’re in the right frame of mind (calm) before going any further, because when you’re so emotional, missing your ex-girlfriend like this, I GUARANTEE any other action that you take, will worsen your standing with her. 99% of the guys I deal with in these breakup situations (my clients) do the same desperate stuff before they find me, and while it can be recovered from, it’s still better if you don’t do it. Because we do stupid, desperate shit when we’re this emotional… The kinda shit that would make your ex EVEN MORE determined that she doesn’t want you back. Once you’re back near your ‘default’ feelings and state of mind, go ahead and proceed with the next section below, as we calculate (for real) whether you want your ex back or not.Ģ. I don’t think you’re yet able to make the right call, especially if you just googled something like, “I still love my ex” or “I still have feelings for my ex”. In fact, logic probably hasn’t even had its’ chance to have a say on how you should proceed yet, so we need to just wait until you’re calm and collected enough to think this whole thing through without your feelings bossing everything.Įssentially, I don’t believe that at this moment in time, you are in the right headspace to be deciding what you want. Right now your raw emotions are calling the shots and overriding logic. Because good decisions in life are made on a solid LOGICAL basis, NOT an emotional basis. WHY take some time to let your feelings return to baseline levels? Two reasons:ġ. Common sense says this is what to do when you miss your ex. In other words, I need you to calm down first and let your emotions drop back to something like their normal levels, before you decide whether you want your ex back (or not). That’s why the first thing I need you to do so that we can get the BEST outcome for your situation, is to just take a step back and understand that your judgement is clouded when you’re so emotional like this. This whole breakup scenario and your longing to have your ex back has seen to that. Still love her? Taking a step back is what to do when you miss your exĪs you’re here reading this article, I can safely assume that you’re HIGHLY emotionally charged right now. So your relationship with your ex has broken down, right? But you’re now reflecting on your time together and it’s got you thinking, “Man I’ve realized I still love my ex so much! I just need to know what do I do from here to regain her interest because I definitely still have feelings for her.”Īm I on the right track with that? If so keep reading, because in this article we’re going to get you organized in terms of what your next move should be if you still love your ex.
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